A Little Divorce With That Dialysis?

Please excuse the huge gap in posts.  We have had a LOT going on.  Sonshine's dad decided a girlfriend was just what he needed to get him through the next 25 years.  Mazel Tov.  It's always a classy move to cheat on your family for 13 months before you accidentally get caught and have to come clean.

Everybody went into a tail spin.  It was a lot to get adjusted to.  Sonshine and his sister really got knocked for a loop.  One of their counselors explained it to them like this, "Everything that you have known to be solid and unshakeable in your life, just imploded."  Yep.  That about covers it.  As a parent you think that if you get them through the toddler years and the young years that you might be home free when it comes to divorce fallout.  They took it so hard.  If I hate him for anything, it's for that.  Two years have passed and they still are having to get their minds around the fact that their father has put himself and someone else above concerns about their educationand their mental and physical health.  I watch my 21 year old daughter struggle with OCD and anxiety while she tries to put herself through college.

Sonshine can't even apply to schools because he can't get the application fees from his dad.  We all just keep swimming.  I was clearing 500.00 a month when the ex left.  Now it's 1400.00.  Progress.  Still not enough but we'll get there.  It is painful to watch them both come to understand what their father's emotional and financial limitations are toward them.  As children, we all come to that understanding.  Theirs came sooner than I thought it would but they are great people with a nice reserve of positivity.  They are going to be fine. 

Sonshine's sister has a job now that she loves.  Sonshine has started a business with the son of a very nice man that I have been seeing.  It's not the family that we were used to, but it feels good.  The bf taught Sonshine and his sister how to change the oil in their cars.  He just taught sis how to replace her brakes.  She feels empowered and capable.  I am reminded so many times now of God's grace.  His simple ways of blessing us and keeping us connected to what is really important.  Lord, I know I don't say it enough, but thank you.