Merry Christmas! Happy Hanukkah and Happy Holidays! Today the family is out for about an hour and I wanted to update the blog. My New Year's Resolution is to find time in the days and weeks to come to more frequently update this blog. I want to be a way for other moms to reach out and I want to welcome those relationships into my life.
Sonshine and his sister are both home together while high school and college are both on break. It is music to my ears to hear them laughing and even to hear them arguing. At least the house feels alive. When they all start to leave the nest no one tells you that it is the noise that you miss the most.
Sonshine visited the urologist and was told that right now he is holding his own. The numbers from the blood work are still not "normal" but that might be too much to ask for these days. He is catheterizing every three hours during the night (because I set my alarm and wake him up) but during the days my concern is that he is distracted and that too much time is passing in between catheterizations. Unfortunately, at 16 he has to be an active part of the process when it comes to keeping his body healthy. Sometimes I do think that he gets discouraged and wonders what the point is. I hope that is not the case. The big news is that sonshine has a girlfriend and he likes her very much. Getting to know her and trust their relationship is a big step for me as mom. As long as he is happy and she treats him well, I will do my best to include her in the things that we do as a family. The trouble right now seems to be finding a balance between respecting their need to spend as much time together as possible and our family needing to carve out time to come together as family during the times that my daughter is home from college. If anyone has a playbook for that please let me know.
For now it is one day at a time. Anyone who tries to plan further ahead than that has a better grasp on life than I do. Update on the girlfriend: She has definitely grown on all of us and they have been dating for almost a year. I am thankful that they both have each other and that she is such a sweet, loving, girl.
